We do not claim to have the "magic bullet" to make the achievement gap a footnote in history, but we do think we know of at least one ailment that has plagued our school system for far too long: bullying.
The author belongs to a minority. Both his parents are college graduates, they had dinner together a sa family several nights a week, and he grew up in a multilingual family--learning several alphabets by age 7. He has never attended school outside of Maryland, and benefited greatly from both a private and public school education, ultimately graduating from a blue ribbon public high school.
But there was a demon in the author's life that hounded him for many years. One that, in American culture attracts only shame and accusations of weakness and guilt: the author was bullied as a child, and it did affect his grades, his temperament, and his decision to enter politics. For the first time ever, the author is revealing this side of him, and doing so in a very public way. We hope in doing so, that we might highlight the need to address bullying in our schools, and begin the culture change needed to end bullying once and for all.
American society, especially when talking about classroom culture awards the socially popular, while punishing the "weird," "strange," and "different." The role this plays in the classroom and the way it affects the lifetime academic performance of students is well documented. A student who does not feel valued often feels apathetic towards schoolwork, and moreover, falls into a cycle of hopelessness and social insularity that can severe consequences in the long run.
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A Very Personal Aside
To speak from a very personal place: following September 11th, 2001, a classmate of the author inflamed racial and social tensions at his high school by constantly harassing and humiliating students of a particular minority background. The author (and others) complained to the school's administration and to at least one member of the guidance team at their high school. No action was taken to discipline or at least confront the classmate's behavior. Several years later, the student had an altercation with a very well-liked and respected high school teacher. The teacher was suffering from depression, and the classmate (whose behavior remained incorrigible years later) one Friday afternoon told them to go home and die. The teacher committed suicide that weekend. Indirectly, school administration was complicit in aiding and abetting bullying to the extent that lives were endangered. The author believes this strongly.
The author knows of two other students from that same high school, who committed suicide before ever graduating. In both cases, friends circles, the sense of hopelessness and the feeling of social isolation played a serious role. In simpler words: bullying does kill.
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In America, succeeding academically is not viewed in the same light as in other developed countries. In Japan, families pressure (sometimes beyond rhyme and reason) their children to succeed academically, and lives and career paths are generally decided in that very hierarchical society by the end of eighth grade. In Germany and much of the European Union, students excel because society and their families expect and encourage them to do so. In our society: good grades aren't cool, and not being cool can be a devastating weakness just when young people need a proper education most: in high school.
But bullying as an institution does not end with high school graduation. Some students are just late bloomers, who need the part-time and transient educational environment offered by community colleges. That is where societal pressure and the achievement gap's expectations gap kick in; the pressure to attend a four year college right out of high school is so high in Montgomery County, that many times we ignore the obvious (emotional, financial, social, and logistical) benefits of a young person attending Montgomery College for a semester or more. Success does not have to be a pass or fail, sink or swim sort of equation. It can and should be a gentle arc of achievement culminating in a meaningful addition and presence in human society.
The peer pressure on students of certain minority backgrounds to not succeed academically is well-known. The author felt it too, at times, but luckily grew up in an environment that was diverse enough to not be pressured to act, talk, or behave a certain way in order to "fit in". Many other students, across the state, are not as lucky. More must be done to secure a sense of safety in the classroom for all students, regardless of their background.
Conclusion
To conclude: there are countless systematic failures not enumerated in this post relating to why we have an achievement gap. We do not dare to belittle any of them. But one factor we encourage the Board of Education on both the county and state level to investigate more thoroughly, is just how many young people's academic careers are we losing to peer pressure in general, and bullying in particular. We speak anecdotally in saying: the problem does exist, and lives are being ruined simply because enough is not being done to end American Academia's ugliest of traditions.
Thank you for sharing your deeply personal experience. Studies show when students experience any trauma -- in school or out of school - it can narrow their aperture for learning.
ReplyDeleteI attended a community symposium on bullying last March presented by Montgomery County Committee on Hate/Violence, Montgomery County Office of Human Rights, and Montgomery College where many students described heart-wrenching torment. Panels included MCPS school counselors and organizations that work with the schools -- but they voiced being overwhelmed by the need. The ratio of students to counselors is quite inadequate. We must add more counselors and provide them with additional training. I would like to see greater emphasis on restorative policies and practices that address conflict quickly before situations escalate.
When using these practices, mediators often find that students who are bullies have undergone trauma themselves. We need more Pupil Personnel Workers (PPW) who are licensed social workers in our system, and who are trained in family systems therapy and trauma to better identify those needs. They could also support students suffering stress, anxiety and depression that can lead to self-medication and self-injury. MCPS also has access to supportive programs through HHS, but the leadership of the schools has to be aware of and take advantage of their services.
Social emotional development supports more positive communication and self-awareness. Social-emotional learning is supposed to be one of the pillars of MCPS's strategic plan, yet teachers don't see it reflected in the curriculum. I was just talking with a group of elementary teachers about this issue today. School counselors were not consulted on how it could be integrated into the curriculum, so they are dependent on principals working with them to figure it out.
Lastly, as our system continues to grow exponentially in diversity, I would love to see our school system do more cultural proficiency programming with folks like Dr. Hedieh Mirahmadi of the International Cultural Center.
FYI: The Youth Risk Behavior Survey results for MoCo were just released. See QN24 and 25. http://phpa.dhmh.maryland.gov/cdp/Documents/2013-YRBS-Montgomery-HS-Summary-Tables.pdf regarding self-reporting of bullying in our schools.
Another board of ed candidate, Laurie Halverson, co-chaired an MCPS Committee to write the first anti-bullying policy for the school system and worked with the director of School Performance to add bullying reporting data on the MCPS Safety and Security at a Glance Report.